Orientation Sexual is Your Choice

Continuing the last post, about sexual orientation, there's some categories which is Heterosexual, Homosexual, and Bisexual.

Heterosexual likes a person from another sex.

Homosexual likes a person who have the same sex with them.

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Bisexual likes to both of the sex.

If in the past post I write about homosexual, this time I want to discuss about bisexual. Why? Because when I listen about the Sexual Orientation group, I remembered about my friend who confess herself as a Bi. I know her from the social network and after a while, I don't know why my friend brave enough to tell me about how her relationship and her conversation with her same sex partner and opposite sex partner.

At first I feel uncomfortable to be friend with her, but after a while, I feel that I don't have the power to make her avoid her sexual orientation. But, honestly, I'm shocked, want to avoid the message that she sent me, even until today I still having friendship with her (since friendster-facebook until twitter). Why I don't end our friendship with her? I will quote Mam Henny's words in class, "I appreciate the exintence from a person, even they're homosexual or bisexual. But as a human being."

There's reason and causes why people become homosexual or bisexual. The difference of the sexual orientation maybe because of the genetics, hormone, order of birth, or physics. So from now on, try to not look with only one eye or look down people with different sexual orientation with You

It doesn't matter what color, sex, religion, age, sexual orientation, etc., everyone should have the same freedoms and liberties-Lance Bass.

Gay marriage is two people loving each other is beautiful no matter what their gender or sexual orientation and should be celebrated-Unknown quotes.

Sexual Orientation

Which one better: Heterosexual, Homosexual, or Bisexual??

Human, in biologicaly, is supposed to be a heterosexual who likes another person from another sex. Like male fall in love  to women and vice versa. However, there are some of us who don't like the opposite sex. We called it homosexual.

Homosexual is divided into gay and lesbian. Which is gay is like with same men and lesbian with the same women. Now, some of the country already accept the marriage between the homosexuals. Some of us think that as a really nasty thing, but now we need to accept them as a whole. Why? Well, they're also human right, so we need to accept them as they already choose it. Even in psychology, we need to accept everyone as our client no matter if they were homosexual or heterosexual.

For homosexual, they often become homosexual because of some traumatic event. What kind of traumatic event? It's because one of their relatives maybe have sexual abused to them and their relatives is the same sex. Usually their uncle who do it to their nephew. For women, they become lesbian because they're hate men and want to be with women because women care about them.

A couple of lesbian get married in Tokyo Disney Resort. This couple wear the same white dress like a fairy tale even there is a term that one of them have to wear a men suit.

"My beloved Hiroko and I wear that wedding dress and having a mini parade in Disney Sea, which is also a place that I like," said Koyuki Higashi, 28, on Twitter. 

"I'm very happy!" she said.

Now, about the bisexuals, they like men also women. So for them, every sexual relationship is fine. The reason for them doing this is actually simple, they don't satisfied for they're sexual life. So for having more thrilled in their sexual life, they try to add another seasoning for their sexual life. Or it can be because of they're actually homosexual, but want to have kids, so they got married with another sex and having kids.

Okay, that sum up about the heterosexual, homosexual, and bisexual. But maybe you ask, "What about the person who is love to the same sex, not because of traumatize event from their past, but because they like the same sex from born?". Now you said about genetically they're already homosexual. Can it be like that?

For men, they can be more like women because of their hormones. You know about testosterone and progesterone? Well, testosterone is hormone to become more masculine, while progesterone is hormone to become more feminine. Everyone have these hormones and it depends what will develop more. So if a man have more progesterone that testosterone, they become more feminine, while women who have more testosterone will become more masculine.

Can these hormone make them become gay or lesbian? No. At first when men more feminine, maybe their parents incidentally make them become more and more feminine. And until some point, they become a gay and not heterosexual.

But then, which one is better? Well, we are made for being men and women who complete each other. So we need to take care of each other. And that means we are not made as a homosexual. But what about bisexual? Bisexual still with women. Is it so? Bisexual can be because of they're actually homosexual, but want to have a child so they married with another sex. So we need to see through the background and look at what is wrong with them

Whatever they are, whoever they are, they're still human and we need to respect and care with them as a human being not another creature. Even sometimes those who is heterosexual is don't have any norm as a human rather than homosexual.

We're human, we still need each other. No matter what they are, we have to talk with them as a human.

Source:
AFP. (March 6, 2013). Pernikahan sesama jenis di Tokyo Disneyland.

Love and Intimacy. Not just a fairy tale!

Have you ever went on to relationship or do you get close to someone? Have you ever feel that love is actually a mystery? Actually, that's what I feel. Sometimes, in the relationship that I go through, I feel not success to find the formula of love and, well, there is no formula of love. In love itself, there's a cause that we like someone, that is pheromone. That's why siblings don't like each other because they don't like each others smell. That's for preventing the incest. There is also process to love and be loved. This is how you can having a good relation between friends and your partner.

In the Sexual Behavior class yesterday, I realized that love is not like a fairy tale, when there is kingdoms, with princess and prince who ride a white horse, partying all day, and so on. Live is not just romantic. Do you really think that Cinderella live happily ever after with his Prince Charming? The prince could be have some bad attitude so they got divorce.

There are some types of love, which is:

1. Romantic love: usually having some physically attractive and sexual desire. There are some criteria to attract to, is it physically or sexually. There is also have some anxiety and restless. In this type, someone tend to idealize their partners, ignore the mistake that their partners would make even though what their partners did is truly fault.

2. Passionate love: sign with interest with each other so they can have sex before marriage.

3. Companionate love: sign with trust and care with each other. It involves loving, intimacy, and attachment with the others. The point is, there is commitment in relationship.

—John Alan Lee suggests that there are six basic types of love:

1. Eros (romantic lover): Often called as "love at the first sight" where the couple full of passion.

2. Ludus (game-playing lover): The couple often seen as break up and in love with each other again everytime. 

3. Storge (quiet, calm lover):  Couples that the relationship is not like dating each others.

4. Mania (crazy lover): This is love that can be very dangerous because the partner have a very high level of jealousy. 

5. Pragma (practical lover): The relationship looked as having each others approval in their relationship.

6. Agape (selfless lover): Couples look very thrusting their partners, but it can be negative if the couple feel not being in their attention.

Now, do you realize that love in the past is really different with love at this time?

Couples in the past can be married because they are being paired with and go the "dating" time when in marriage. But, couples from the past still can be more acceptable to their own partners all that they had. That's why couples from the past still have more commitment and there's rarely have a divorce. 

Nowadays, women can work and often have many demand in life. They're also lack of feeling thank rather than in the past. It's all happen because there is difference of demand and commitment.

It seems hard to accept partner if the partner itself (especially men) doesn't have their own personal car, funds for dating, also maybe doesn't active in the social media. Imagine that, your partner only have a bicycle, doesn't have any income, only have e-mail and doesn't understand about internet. There are some partner (women) angry and having a conflict because no good night message, no see you message, no good morning message and so on in the social media. Can you imagine how complicated it is in today's relationship?

Relationships take effort and when a couple stops working on the relationship, both partners can become very lonely, love can fade and intimacy can evaporate. When love is lost, for whatever reason, it is a time of pain and mourning. The support of family and friends can help us let go of the lost love and try to form new attachments. But also don't little by little we update our status to seeking attention because in some times, people who read about it also become angry. 

Sometimes I saw couples that giving code by downloading a certain pictures to give code for another partner to buy for it. It means you manipulate your partner and controlling them in hope your partner buy it for you. When the partner didn't buy it? There will be conflict.

Possessiveness indicates a problem of self-esteem and personal boundaries and can eventually lead to stalking. Possessive people maybe smelling the aroma of their partner, check all of their belongings, check and control their partner message and other activity in their phone. Also don't let their partner go without their permit.

—Good communication skills are an integral part of all healthy 

relationships and couples who know how to communicate with each

other are happier, more satisfied, and have a better chance of

making their relationship last. —Communication fosters mutual

understanding, increases emotional intimacy, and helps deepen

feelings of love and intimacy. —However, lack of communication

skills is a major source of trouble in relationships. 

As we grow older, commitment in love becomes more important and passion may decrease importance.

So, who is the first one that loving us without ask something from us? The answer is our parents. They don't ask us to pay anything and don't complain as they take care of us until now.

Have you ever watch Shrek? Maybe that is the example of how love being effort and have commitment. Shrek defeated the dragon and the evil Farquaad until married with princess Fiona. Even Fiona's parents surprise when they know that their son-in-law is a giant Ogre. Not only that, their beautiful princess now change into an Ogre like her husband. Even so, with all of the effort, Fiona's parents allowed their relationship. People who said happily ever after never take an effort because the basic of love is effort and struggle.

—Good lovers are sensitive to their partners’ needs and desires

and can communicate their own desires. —Overall, we know that

communication is one of the most important aspects of a healthy

and satisfying relationship.

You don't have to look about your partner's social network, checking

his/her phone everyday, spying all his/her activity, smelling his/her

smell that is not your smell. Let your partner free and trust them.

With commitment, good communication, and trust, your partner will not

having affair from you.

Giveaway Prize that I won

Hello! Today I want to share items from giveaway that I won on June. I know it's already August but I still want to post it, hehe.

First is the package contain a lot of interesting item from Petite Vanille. I used the London document divider for some of my important papers. The sippah fun straw is delicious except the banana flavour (I don't like banana, actually). The cute wallet (substitute of the givency lipgloss that already expired-told by Vella owner of Petite Vanille) is actually cute but I gift it to my mom as I don't need a new wallet also the camera pocket, I give it to my sister, hehe.

Second is the package contain a piece jewelry from PersunMall June Giveaway. I received this package on Tuesday, 16th July 2013. 

There were several prizes which Persunmall was offering to winner, I choose this bracelet because my sister and piggy told me that this is the cutest one for me. But because of my hand is too small, which is mean, I can't use it except I 'cut' some part.

It was retailed at US$ 17.99 on the website but the tag it contain was priced at $46.99 ? Weird, huh? My package reached safely around 22 days from 24th July 2013. I did not pay any taxes or duty when it reached here. To be honest, this is the first time I win and get item from overseas, usually, I never order and even if I want, I can't buy it because I don't have a credit card or debit card [except for pay college tuition]

Click to buy.

And last, a pair of shoes IWEARUP from Dskon.com feat Miss Oline. The name of this is shoes is Kate Two Tone. Beige straps with black trim. Red canvas-wrapped wedges. 9 cm high with 2 cm platform. Such a very cute wedges (>__<) and actually I joined this giveaway around D-4 before the giveaway ended and I feel so lucky when finally can get this shoes for free. Yay! Thank you for dskon.com & Miss Oline :)

A Story About Meet and Greet Ono Eriko Sensei

I want to share about Meet and Greet with Ono Eriko Sensei, although it's already August (The event is on 23nd June) but still, I want to write it ^^


At first, I being helped by piggy, signing as a participant in meet and greet Ono Eriko Sensei. I get the ticket and number 13 which mean that I can meet and talk face-to-face with Ono Eriko Sensei. Before, I think I can take a picture together. But unfortunately I can't and to be honest, that is my purpose to take pictures with Ono Eriko Sensei. This is the picture of the payment proof for Pre-Order Meet and Greet Ono Eriko sensei package.

A few days before D-day, Gramedia Central Park customer service call me and asking me which comics package I want to take. To be honest, I feel dissapointed again because I think the comic that I will get is from book 1 until 25. But it's actually divided into 3 comic package. Edition 1-8, edition 9-16 and edition 17-24.

At 23 June 2013, half an hour before the meet and greet began, I arrived at the venue that has been positioned and go to the customer service to exchange it with the invitation card. After that, I got this piece of paper. There is two invitation card color, the one is like what I got (the background is blue) and the other are pink.

Invitation Card

After queuing for get into the venue, showed the invitation card, get a bag filled with Miiko's watch, Miiko's manga package with shikishi, also A special shikishi (this one is for 60 first applier in meet and greet), then I come in and sit down while waiting. I tried to calm myself because I'm a little nervous because no one accompany me to go inside the venue. This is some of the pictures that I think can describe the situation when Meet and Greet with Ono Eriko Sensei in Central Park Mall.

The Venue

Ono Eriko Sensei with the head of Central Park Mall's Gramedia

Ono Eriko Sensei greeting to Miiver's

Standing Sign

The translator tell us what we said to Sensei

Trying to take a picture together with Sensei, even it's a little weird.

Ono Eriko signing the board of Hai, Miiko Indonesian Tour 2013

The Detail

Ono Eriko Sensei said some words for the closing

The example of shikishi in Miiko package edition 6-9

With standing banner Miiko and Tappei

With my university friend who also like Miiko

For some pictures you can see in Facebook M&C and some pictures who join the photo session Photo Session With Ono Eriko

*Source: Facebook M&C

The cameraman didn't count when take the picture (~_~!)

The detail of the shikishi, draw, sign and writing "Terima kasih!" from Ono Eriko Sensei directly (^^)

This Paket Komik Miiko that already provided and already sold in Gramedia, inside there is also printed shikishi and there is also some promotion if you buy this package. You can get a bonus that is Block Note Hai Miiko for free, for every payment of the package Box Miiko only in Gramedia Bookstore JABODETABEK! Grab it fast! Because it's limited edition!

This is the inside of the package that gived to everyone [Meet and Greet also the Photo Session]

This watch actually have the white color. If only I got the white one, I will be happier because I like white color (T_T). This watch can be ordered in or you can ordered in by: GRAMEDIA DIRECT Phone (62-21) 53650110 / 111 ext. 3902 (Monday-Friday, 08.00 A.M.- 18.00 P.M. GMT+7)

The collector's Boxset that I've chose is because there is a shikishi that already taken my heart (^_^)

Another side of the collector's boxset

Printed Shikishi

Sorry for the bad quality of the picture, I only taken it with my Samsung Galaxy Note 1 :(

D.I.Y Short Jeans

This time I want to share about how to cut your jeans. I do this when I need a new short jeans but unfortunately my mom won't buy it for me, so I decided to 'search' my old jeans and then cut them.

Step 1

* You need an old long jeans, a marker, a scissors and a ruler.

* Fold the jeans into the length that you want.

* Cut them without a doubt or it will not neat and not straight with each other.

Step 2

* I clamped the angle that I don't want

Step 3

* Just sew it lightly if you are not sure with your stitches (I was also like that). After that you can bring it to the tailor.

The result

The details, I put some silver and gold studs to make it a 'little' different.

Right Side

Left Side

What do you think? Please tell me :)

June Wish List

So, as I promised on my previous post, here are some my June wish list~

1. Meet my lovely Ono Eriko, author of Kocchi Muite! Miiko at Gramedia Central Park 15.30 WIB and I must be on time because I'm afraid that already full of people and I hope there is no alayers when event started. Some people who don't know ethics and always love to scream, I would be concerned about the event will not conducive. Almost forget, I must say thank you to my lovely piggy because I got the ticket from him. But I still had to pay him with my own money too.

Jetz

Kimbo Sosis Ayam

2 & 3. Do you know that I really miss this snack and food. Until now I think it has been discontinued the production and I think if I had cravings later, I would want this for sure! Did anyone know where to buy this too-yummy-to-be-ignored??

[UPDATE] My piggy already found the Kimbo Sosis Ayam in Superindo. Yayness! Finally I can eat after waiting so long >__<~

 Lotso

Puss In Boots & Gingerbread Man

4. For me, lotso, puss in boots and gingerbread man its cute.

Here is my rambling:

There is a person who said that: this is the first time for her to got a book with author signatures. I responded with a smile. She asked me if I ever get a book with the author's autograph? I answered once and she asked again "who is the author?"

When I mention one name. Lightly she downplayed what I said and told me that the author is still a 'nobody'

Which actually, the author of the book is a stand up comedian, has been making films as much as 2 pieces that have been aired and 1 movie series itself played on youtube and then switch to Kompas TV and have 1 that will appear coming soon on June 2013.

Then I decided to smile again to her and make the conclusion that this person is not using her brain when talking and easily to underestimate others. I know everyone have a different favorite character, person, taste and everything. But, please! Do not talk if you don't know the truth! 

I grab this picture from facebook, idk why I love pikachu until now ♥

See you next post~